“You can spend minutes, hours, days, weeks, or even months over-analyzing a situation; trying to put the pieces together, justifying what could've, would've happened... or you can just leave the pieces on the floor and move the fuck on.” Tupac
GAH! That was so me! Justifying, over-analyzing and trying my hardest to make sense of a senseless situation ... I needed to move the eff on. And I needed Tupac Shakur to tell me this.
Going through my divorce was by far the hardest thing I've ever done. It's such a strange thing when you're up against the person who was supposed to be your teammate for life. I was constantly playing out scenarios in my head - What if I said this - or did that? What would he do? How would he respond? I wanted to understand and I wanted to be understood. To a fault. I needed to let go. I needed to move on. I needed to stop focusing on thy "Why" and pay attention to the "Now". And that "Now" was I getting divorced, I wouldn't have answers to all of my questions, and it was going to be ok. I was going to be ok. My kids were going to be ok.
I still have a tendency to over-think situations. When I feel that happening or I hear myself telling the same story over and over, I stop and think WW2PD? And I try and do that. :)
Going through my divorce was by far the hardest thing I've ever done. It's such a strange thing when you're up against the person who was supposed to be your teammate for life. I was constantly playing out scenarios in my head - What if I said this - or did that? What would he do? How would he respond? I wanted to understand and I wanted to be understood. To a fault. I needed to let go. I needed to move on. I needed to stop focusing on thy "Why" and pay attention to the "Now". And that "Now" was I getting divorced, I wouldn't have answers to all of my questions, and it was going to be ok. I was going to be ok. My kids were going to be ok.
I still have a tendency to over-think situations. When I feel that happening or I hear myself telling the same story over and over, I stop and think WW2PD? And I try and do that. :)
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